4 Steps to fix this routine and start a fresh mindset
As Selena Gomez summarized, I’m sick of the same love.
Let’s apply it to our “modern “dating life. We’re sick of unsuccessful, the same-ended date/meeting/Causal meeting and no response after we say goodbye to each other. The same end and the same feeling afterward. I know. A disappointment. This is a result of having many options. I do not know whether we should thank for it or not. a Curse!
I’ve been on many dates and speaking honestly, 95% of it did not end up as I expected as you might imagine. Please read correctly. They did not end up as I expected. No words regarding the actual consequences in neither bad nor good. I wish that all of these would have been met my expectation at some point.
Personally, the description of successful dating is to never get bored of his/her companionship. The reality is much more different than the online platform and you feel so much easy-going in your PJ and your comfort place. However being with a real person can be stressful as hell and the game now starts- advertising. Self-marketing. A funny part of dating is this!
For some people, who are good at marketing themselves as a successful date section for a particular amount of time is just fun, a game. However what about some who are not good?
I’m speaking to you, who think of having a problem at this game.
- Try not to be a bored person. Find out a funny/ entertaining story to tell and try to laugh at it together. If you do not have any of such stories, share the funny scene from your favorite TV show. It’s proven as funny. Use it for your own sake. Or make it up on your own. Or think of a funny story you have laughed at lately and tell her as it is yours.
- The whole point is to decrease the tension and have fun at a limited time. Therefore, act like you plan everything for the night or day. I have experienced that women are into such men who are good at planning. I bet that it’s based on a historical background to have taken care of everything by man and women shape it in their way. The frame is shaped by us.
- How your date goes is dependent on two things. Firstly, quick scan your attitude between you in the present and you in wp/ıg or another platform. Be the same or be better. Secondly, be clear that you meet her for having a good time with a beautiful woman and appreciate her existence next to you. She would be somewhere else but you. Feel privileged for now.
- Be yourself but not too much. All of us do have a personality trait we dislike and are shy to show and be recognized through this undesired trait. This night-the first date is a day that you should keep inside and control somehow. Keep it to yourself and show it to another date if any.
The number of pieces of advice is plenty. These are my way to have a friendly, successful, and aim at the second date with her. I must confess that neither of advice can work. Each person has a unique personality. The game is there but the rules swifts to a new one.
As long as we think of a date as a starter to have a relationship, one-night stand, or a different purpose, All we are motivated is to have a chill our night. We pay attention to our daily feelings at the end, which is “feeling good”. Sounds basic but life is basic sometimes.
Let’s keep it simple.
Have fun!
